What to do???

My sweet little peanut, Stella, is a full-blown Mommy's girl. I LOVE that she loves me, I really do! The problem is I have 2 children and so being able to give her my full attention is sometimes not possible. I am really dreading when the jealousy of me being with Mya really kicks in. Today she was swinging with no problem but then she looked over at me picking Mya up and she instantly started to cry. The other problem is that my children are so stinkin' cute that other people want to hold them. Mya normally allows this. She has only had a few occasions where she has cried when passed to someone else. Stella, on the other hand, cries almost every time. This hurts people's feelings I'm sure and puts me in a frustrating position. I know that no one else can really soothe her except for her parents and I don't always know how to say to the person holding her to just give her to me. It really does not help me to watch others try because she just gets even more mad making my job of calming her down even bigger.

For example, this last weekend we had a family wedding in Wes' hometown. The day started with a two hour drive, in which Stella slept 45 minutes. Normally, she takes 4-5 naps a day. The car ride was her only nap all day long because in between the wedding and reception we went to my in-law's house where we tried to lay her down but she was in a new place and would not sleep. This made her cranky and even more tearful. I knew that people would want to hold her and I dreaded it everytime because she would just scream and cry. She produces huge tears and has the most pathetic cry that breaks my heart every time. In her defense, she was tired and really doesn't know most of the people who wanted to hold her. They live 2 hours away and we don't see them very often.

My sister and I talked about how it is our job as mothers to make sure our children are confident and content and even if a situation is uncomfortable for us we still have to do what is best for our kids. They can't speak for themselves, so we have to do it. That means if someone wants to hold my baby and I know that she is not in the mood for that, I have to say no. It also means that if my baby is being held by someone else and she is not happy I have to take her from that person. Awkward or not, I have to do it.

So now my question - What do I do? How can I make her more comfortable with other people? I refuse to just hand her off and walk away knowing she is scared. I also can't stand standing there watching her cry. I feel a little stuck. I am hoping she will grow out of this soon, especially before I go back to work and she has to go to the babysitter.